Bundles
of Joy, LLC takes many issues into consideration when finding the right surrogate
for you and relies on both your and the surrogate’s opinions to finalize the
match. We believe that a good match provides the basis for a happy surrogacy
journey.
Every
month, Bundles of Joy, LLC receives over 100 applications from aspiring
surrogates from the state of Florida, where laws are most favorable for
surrogacy. We rarely receive applications
from women who live in other states. In such
cases, we consult with our legal professionals to determine whether or not we
can move forward with the candidate.
After
receiving a given candidate’s application, we conduct a thorough interview. Additionally,
the candidate’s partner or closest relative is invited to a phone conversation,
as he or she will become the candidate’s primary source of support and needs to
know what to expect during and after the surrogacy. You, as the Intended parent, will be
presented with the information of 1-2% of those candidates who make it into our
database.
During
the application process, you and our candidates for surrogacy will familiarize
yourselves with each other’s characteristics. Both you and your surrogate will
tell us which ethnicities, languages, sexual references, etc. you prefer to
work with. You will also define your
beliefs about abortion, selective reduction, the number of embryos to be
transferred, etc. In a more informal way, you are asked to define what kind of connection
you expect to have with your surrogate during and after the pregnancy.
All these
issues are taken into consideration and they must match up. Any discrepancy is discussed with both
parties. If certain issues cannot be
ironed out, we accept that this is simply not a good match and move on to other
candidates.
At this
point, Bundles of Joy will share the profiles of 2-3 candidates with the intended
parents who will have a chance to meet them and determine which candidate best
matches their personality.
These meetings
are conducted via video conferencing or in person. Both parties are encouraged to share their
reasons for entering into this arrangement, as well as personal stories and
expectations for the journey. And most
importantly, both parties must agree to work with each other. Bundles of Joy invites both parties to take
this visit as an opportunity to interview each other. After all, no money has been spent at this
point and no harm is done if one of the parties decide that this is not a good
match.
In most
cases, the meeting becomes a bonding experience. The surrogate is informed of the struggles which
the couple has already gone through and is made to understand first hand their
unwavering desire to become parents. At
this point, the intended parents usually truly see their surrogate as reality
for the first time. The feeling that this
woman is willing to help them provides them with a sense of relief.
Bundles
of Joy, LLC recommends an open and honest relationship between both parties, to
be done in a scheduled manner as to respect each other’s busy lives and to
ensure that both parties dedicate time for each other without any distractions.
Our goal
is to make the surrogacy journey a pleasant experience. Pregnancy is uncomfortable and a trying
period in itself and we do not want to provide even more stress due to a trying
relationship between surrogate and intended parents. The intended parents have already faced a
roller coaster of emotions since beginning their attempt to conceive. We strive
to make happy and healthy babies who were gestated in a healthy environment and
will live in good homes. We want you to
take home your little “Bundle of Joy” while bringing joy to your surrogate’s
family as well.